Eros Coaching: Is it Cheating?
According to the October issue of Her World, more than fifty women were polled and it is cheating when…
• He exchanges flirty SMSes with another woman – 75.9%
• He has a “work spouse” – 71.2%
However it is not cheating though when he surfs naughty sites without telling you (81.3%).
What counts as cheating to you?
Don’t rely on a poll to tell you what are acceptable and non-acceptable sexual behaviours in a relationship. It is up to you to define it with your partner.
Sure it might be a sensitive, even difficult subject to bring up. However if you never had that conversation, are you assuming your partner is a mind-reader, casting caution to the wind, or playing with fire? Are you the type of person who waits for things to happen to you, or you decide before things happen?
Some things you might like to discuss:
• Need to inform you if going on a single date?
• Flirting? How about if via email/ texting?
• Hand holding? How about if crossing a busy road?
• Greeting/ farewell kiss? On cheek? Forehead? How about virtual kisses?
• Greeting/ farewell hug?
• Room sharing ok?
• Or does anything go except penetrative sex?
You have a say.
