" >Power of Poetry
It’s National Poetry Month, y’all! It’s an art form where words are delicately chosen to convey intense emotional ideas and rhythmically released to maximize their impact, which has sadly not always gotten enough attention. Today I’ve chosen a small handful of powerful works by a few random artists that touch on a variety of topics … Read more
What Does It Mean to Have Rape Fantasies?
It’s hard to know exactly how common any fantasy is. It’s already hard to do research on sexual behavior and attitudes, with the amount of taboo placed on talking honestly about sex. People under-report and over-report, depending on what will make them sound better and there is always far more nuance than can be captured … Read more
V Day and Fantasies During Sex
In this episode, I talk a little about Valentine’s Day and the variety of ways to approach it. Plus I answer a query submitted by a reader who asks about how she can change the fantasies she has during sex to include her actual boyfriend. Listen to it here or on iTunes where you can … Read more
Hugo Schwyzer: Male Feminist/ Lightning Rod
I first encountered history and gender studies professor Dr. Hugo Schwyzer‘s work on the Good Men Project, a site that aims to be an enlightened, cerebral counterpoint to glossy lad mags. I was struck by how surprisingly validating it was to have a dude say things about feminism with which I agreed. Not that I needed … Read more
Every F-ing Day of My Life
As much as we may strive to be empathetic, it is not always easy to understand why people make the choices they do. Even if we can theoretically comprehend why someone could feel entitled enough to control and batter their partner, it can be a challenge to figure out why the abused person doesn’t….just…. leave. … Read more
