" >Hugo Schwyzer: Male Feminist/ Lightning Rod
I first encountered history and gender studies professor Dr. Hugo Schwyzer‘s work on the Good Men Project, a site that aims to be an enlightened, cerebral counterpoint to glossy lad mags. I was struck by how surprisingly validating it was to have a dude say things about feminism with which I agreed. Not that I needed … Read more
Every F-ing Day of My Life
As much as we may strive to be empathetic, it is not always easy to understand why people make the choices they do. Even if we can theoretically comprehend why someone could feel entitled enough to control and batter their partner, it can be a challenge to figure out why the abused person doesn’t….just…. leave. … Read more
The Bedroom Commandments
Spirituality and sexuality have a long, complicated entanglement. It’s not that they’re not meant to be together: in fact, I would argue that they are. But, like a couple with meddling friends who have not yet sorted out their own lives, they have been pushed and prodded in a million directions. The precise way in … Read more
Approaches to Breaking Up
Pragmatically, if you enter into a relationship, there are two possible outcomes: you either stay together or you break up. This fact, coupled with anxiety about the reality of either option, is why many people aren’t fans of getting into relationships. But most of us still do and very nearly all of us survive the … Read more
The Art of Seduction with Arden Leigh, Part II
Men have a cachet of lines, wingmen and a whole industry to support their arsenal of pickup artistry. Women, on the other hand, are coached to be very pretty and not too look interested. Most advice to females has to do with seeming unavailable long enough to convince a dude he should be in a … Read more
