If you’re having sexual difficulties in your relationship, you and your partner can go visit with a sex therapist. The therapist can talk with you about what’s going on, chat about what your sex life is like and give you constructive homework to do together, like sensate focus.
Then you and your partner can do these exercises together to fix years of bad habits and create new means of sexual communication.
But what if you don’t have a partner? What if you have been so focused on other things that you never got around to dating or having sex? What if you’re only experience with sex is in the context of hookups and one night stands? What if you’re an adult who has a sexual dysfunction (like ejaculating far sooner than you’d like or being unable to orgasm) but no serious relationship? Then who are you supposed to practice with?
A surrogate partner (formerly known as a sex surrogate), works in tandem with a sex therapist to help in these exact situations. Mark Shattuck happens to be not only a surrogate partner for both male and female clients, but also a representative for the International Professional Surrogates Association.
He explains more about the purpose of surrogacy and answers a lot of great questions, including:
- What problems can a surrogate help with?
- What are the legal and ethical considerations?
- What actually happens in a surrogacy session?
- How does being a surrogate affect your personal life?
- How does a surrogate handle the feelings they have for clients and vice versa?
- Who should look into using a surrogate partner?
- What about LGBT people? What are their options?