Anatomy/Physiology / Body Image / media / Stress

Too Ugly for Love

Hey kittens, it’s #TBT and we’re taking a look at a vintage post that originally went up in January 2012.

Full disclosure: I am convinced my face is asymmetrical, my nose is bulbous and my body is ill-proportioned. And while I appreciate compliments on my appearance, the only comments that feel credible and true are the ones that affirm my fears.

I don’t think I have Body Dysmorphic Disorder (I suspect I just live in American culture where we are subjected to an increasingly impossible beauty standard), but it is something with which I can completely empathize.  With the intense scrutiny placed on physical appearance and the complex way in which attractiveness affects a person’s treatment by others, it’s not surprising that BDD affects 1-2% of the population (7-15% of those who seek cosmetic surgery). In fact, I think it’s surprising that it’s not more common and might be under-diagnosed. The self-tests for BDD seem pretty broadly applicable.

This film, however, looks at some of the more acute cases of BDD: some who refuse to even be filmed because they’re convinced of their own hideousness, despite perfectly normal appearance.

While there are treatments for this kind of anxiety, it would also be prudent for us to all do our part to change the climate that currently encourages this kind of thinking. Every time we emphasize the idea of perfection in appearance, publicly critique the “flaws” of others or otherwise denigrate people for not meeting some random standard of looks, we  are accomplices. Let’s be kinder to each other and to ourselves and place more value what we DO.

Questions? Comments? Violent reactions? Email sexwithtimaree@gmail.com or tweet @timaree_leigh See more at http://www.facebook.com/sexwithtimaree and http://tinyurl.com/swtpod

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