Sometimes I keep open-ended questions in my back pocket for finding out about people and sparking revealing conversations. One that had not yet been road-tested when I flung it at sex educator Gigi Engle was, “who is your dead crush?” She nails it anyway. We talk about our deceased heartthrobs, incels, Betty Dodson and other inspirations-and what got her into this line of work in the first place. It’s delightful.

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