Is the Friendzone a Real Thing?
dating / Desire / evolutionary psychology / Gender / Long Term Relationships / Podcast

Is the Friendzone a Real Thing?

#TBT and time for a vintage episode. This one originally went up in September of 2012. Some young men who think of themselves as “nice guys who finish last” commonly complain: “all the girls go for jerks” and lament that the females they are interested in have shoved them into The Box From Which One … Continue reading

In My Basement with Johnny Goodtimes: 50 Shades of Magic Mike
BDSM / Body Image / censorship / Desire / Fantasy / Gender / media / Pornography

In My Basement with Johnny Goodtimes: 50 Shades of Magic Mike

It’s #TBT and time to pull a relic from the archives. This post originally went up in July of 2012. Johnny Goodtimes of the Philly Post invited me to another joyously creepy episode of In My Basement, the talk show that takes place in his super bizarre unfinished basement. We talk about how best seller 50 … Continue reading

“But Our Contract Says We’ll Have Sex Twice a Week….”
abstinence / Bisexuality / dating / Desire / Gender / Group Sex / Infidelity / LGBT / Long Term Relationships / Marriage / sexuality education

“But Our Contract Says We’ll Have Sex Twice a Week….”

Hey frans, it’s #TBT and time for a vintage podcast. This one originally went up in November of 2012.  You may recall that I posted about the sexuality training that I conducted with Widener University’s Residence Assistants. These young folks are on the front lines of dealing with the sexuality issues of college freshmen: directing them … Continue reading

Is Anal Sex Inherently Gay?
anal sex / Bisexuality / Coming Out / Desire / Fantasy / LGBT / orgasms

Is Anal Sex Inherently Gay?

Hey friends, it’s #TBT and time for a vintage column. This one is originally from September of 2008. DAAANG.  Question to the Sexpert: “A couple of weeks ago you answered a question from a girl whose boyfriend was really into anal, both giving and receiving. I read some of the comments people posted and I … Continue reading

Burlesque at Noir Con! Our 100th Episode!
Bisexuality / Body Image / censorship / Desire / Fantasy / Feminism / Gender / media / Pornography / Prostitution

Burlesque at Noir Con! Our 100th Episode!

#TBT and time for a vintage episode. This first went up in February of 2013. For fans of the noir genre, NoirCon is an idyllic haven. Brainy, beguiling folks from both the consumer and production end of the world of dark, crime-filled books gather to discuss the stories they love. And this year there was … Continue reading

What Does It Mean to Have Rape Fantasies?
abstinence / BDSM / Desire / evolutionary psychology / Fantasy / Gender / Long Term Relationships / Rape

What Does It Mean to Have Rape Fantasies?

Greetings, kittens. It’s #TBT and time for a vintage podcast. This one is an early, early episode and originally went up in March of 2012. It’s hard to know exactly how common any fantasy is. It’s already hard to do research on sexual behavior and attitudes, with the amount of taboo placed on talking honestly … Continue reading

I’ve never gotten off. What if I’m broken? Tales of (and solutions to!) Pre-orgasmia
abstinence / Anatomy/Physiology / Body Image / Desire / masturbation / orgasms / Podcast / Sex Toys

I’ve never gotten off. What if I’m broken? Tales of (and solutions to!) Pre-orgasmia

It’s #TBT kittens and time for a vintage podcast. This one originally went up October of 2012! “I used to be able to get off with no problem. Not anymore. Now I don’t even have much interest in sex and if I do have sex, I end up faking it.” “I’ve never had an orgasm. … Continue reading